My little guy (2 yrs 4 m) seems to be getting frustrated a lot when he doesn’t have the words/ ability to explain what he needs help with. For example, he may want to build a tower with pillows in a certain way and wants me to help, but isn’t able to express how he wants me to help. So, I will guess and ask questions and try different ways, and when I don’t get it quite “right”, he will say, “No, no!” and sometimes he tries to explain with motions or his own words (i.e. non-English words I do not understand). So I keep trying and if I still don’t get it right, then sometimes he gets so upset he bursts into tears. I try to be compassionate but I wish there was more I could do to help him when he feels so upset. Would love any ideas you may have to share.
Being frustrated at not being able to speak often precedes a big developmental leap in speaking, so don’t despair. But what to do in the meantime? Sometimes just acknowledging what’s going on before he get so frustrated that a melt-down is imminent, can help. “You want me to do it your way, but I can’t understand you! Darn, darn, darn!” Show that you’re frustrated, too, then stop for a moment and look him in the eye and smile sadly. “Someday I’ll be able to understand every word you say. But what should we do today? You show me.”