Dear Faith, I am a working mom (though I would much rather be a stay at home mom, it’s not financially possible at this time), and my Mother-in-Law cares for my 2yo son each day. Lately, when she’s been leaving, he’s been falling apart completely. Do you have any suggestions for how to make “parting with grandma” easier? Yesterday he had a total meltdown. From the kitchen, I heard her tell him “I will be right back”…which made me cringe, because I do NOT like lying to children about things like that. Looking back, I wish I had tried “validating” more, by saying “you’re sad that grandma is leaving, i’m sad too”.. etc… but he was instant-hysterical and it’s so hard to calmly talk with him when he’s like that. Not to mention, it just doesn’t *feel* like he understands or is even listening when I am trying to use ‘validating’ words to him. I would love any words of encouragement you could offer.
Dear Mama,